human failures (sorry, dazai osamu)
Jan. 7th, 2011 12:46 am Well, I swore I wouldn't bitch about work here...but...this isn't exactly work-bitching, if it is work-related. It's just something that makes me sad. One of our graduating seniors, call him D, has been my secret favorite among the kids for a long time. (And I'm not kidding. Maybe eight hundred hours in the classroom together over three years, six weeks with the school all living together in Korea and ten days' class trip to Canada?) He's a gifted English student--kind of an obsessive about grammar, go figure, how many teenagers do you know who fit that profile?--and will be going to a design college in London next fall, and he's spent a lot of time asking me endless questions about obscure rules of grammar and oddball turns of phrase. Favoritism isn't cool (especially when we have fewer than ten kids in the whole senior class), but I've spent more time and effort on him, I think, than anyone else, and regretted it less, even though his general manner toward me has always been kind of brusque and not what anyone would call appreciative. It's my job to do it, not his to appreciate it.
Since the last month or so he's started pretty much ignoring me--doesn't come speak to me unless there's something that no other teacher could possibly accomplish, barely replies when I ask him direct questions. His general affect isn't that different anyway, but it feels very different to me, and it really hurts. I feel as if I've put so much into him over the time he's been in high school, and cared so much about him, and for him not only to be indifferent to that all but to seem to find me fundamentally wanting, just really hurts a lot. He doesn't owe me anything beyond the most basic courtesies--speaking to me and looking at me if I address him, saying "thank you" if I find a book I think he'll like, neither of which he'll bother to do these days--but I don't care, it just hurts.
Since the last month or so he's started pretty much ignoring me--doesn't come speak to me unless there's something that no other teacher could possibly accomplish, barely replies when I ask him direct questions. His general affect isn't that different anyway, but it feels very different to me, and it really hurts. I feel as if I've put so much into him over the time he's been in high school, and cared so much about him, and for him not only to be indifferent to that all but to seem to find me fundamentally wanting, just really hurts a lot. He doesn't owe me anything beyond the most basic courtesies--speaking to me and looking at me if I address him, saying "thank you" if I find a book I think he'll like, neither of which he'll bother to do these days--but I don't care, it just hurts.