I always have the knee-jerk reaction of refusing to do anything people expect of women/wives/girls. I decided very early on that gender stereotypes are not for me... but of course there are people whose expectations I respect and try to meet, they're just not gendered expectations. :) That's an excellent stance. On the whole, same--I think I would have cared less when I was single, meeting gender stereotypes or not has not been a big deal for me, but I do feel weird occasionally about all the ways in which I'm not the classic Japanese wife. (And again, it's all me! My partner is fine about it! I don't know.)
I think people used to do that here, too, take names that sound more domestic, but nowadays there are so many foreigners that you don't blink at it anymore (and I like that). There's so much low-level, ingrained xenophobia here, it's depressing. Although it is getting better, just so very slowly.
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Date: 2022-11-21 02:07 pm (UTC)That's an excellent stance. On the whole, same--I think I would have cared less when I was single, meeting gender stereotypes or not has not been a big deal for me, but I do feel weird occasionally about all the ways in which I'm not the classic Japanese wife. (And again, it's all me! My partner is fine about it! I don't know.)
I think people used to do that here, too, take names that sound more domestic, but nowadays there are so many foreigners that you don't blink at it anymore (and I like that).
There's so much low-level, ingrained xenophobia here, it's depressing. Although it is getting better, just so very slowly.