Haha, oh no! I’m curious what the biggest points of disagreement were, I wonder if hearing a different perspective would make me think differently about any of them (not that you need to say, of course!).
and while their attraction is not asexual per se, it seems to tend more to I-need-you-to-be-part-of-me than I-need-you-to-be-fucking-me (or vice versa), so the details of physical attraction don’t quite seem to fit
Personally my approach to writing relationships of this type is that they’re all about the h/c! Not necessarily in a tropey way, just in the sense that the closeness and attachment grows out of the POV character/s discovering that they feel safe / at ease / understood when they’re with the other person, in a way they don’t with everyone else. Moments of vulnerability that have (perhaps unexpectedly) positive outcomes! Discovering that they can/do genuinely trust the other person, and reinforcement of that trust.
I’m always interested in how the way Z1L talks about his work overlaps with (from my amateur perspective) the work of writing, especially with regard to thinking about backstories, evoking character through small moments, etc.
I’ve been thinking about this recently too—my sister is in school for her BFA in theater, so she’s been telling me a bit about the kind of stuff they do in her script analysis and acting classes and it all sounds very related. (Which makes sense! As you say, an actor is creating one character at a time by embodying them, but as a writer you’re similarly occupying a character’s headspace while telling a story from their point of view, it’s still [vicarious experience]… Or it is for me, anyway; I totally lack plotting brain, the whole joy of the thing for me is in spending time in someone else’s head.)
And I love those Dimsie passages, they’re very real.
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but man, no two of them agree on most things
Haha, oh no! I’m curious what the biggest points of disagreement were, I wonder if hearing a different perspective would make me think differently about any of them (not that you need to say, of course!).
and while their attraction is not asexual per se, it seems to tend more to I-need-you-to-be-part-of-me than I-need-you-to-be-fucking-me (or vice versa), so the details of physical attraction don’t quite seem to fit
Personally my approach to writing relationships of this type is that they’re all about the h/c! Not necessarily in a tropey way, just in the sense that the closeness and attachment grows out of the POV character/s discovering that they feel safe / at ease / understood when they’re with the other person, in a way they don’t with everyone else. Moments of vulnerability that have (perhaps unexpectedly) positive outcomes! Discovering that they can/do genuinely trust the other person, and reinforcement of that trust.
I’m always interested in how the way Z1L talks about his work overlaps with (from my amateur perspective) the work of writing, especially with regard to thinking about backstories, evoking character through small moments, etc.
I’ve been thinking about this recently too—my sister is in school for her BFA in theater, so she’s been telling me a bit about the kind of stuff they do in her script analysis and acting classes and it all sounds very related. (Which makes sense! As you say, an actor is creating one character at a time by embodying them, but as a writer you’re similarly occupying a character’s headspace while telling a story from their point of view, it’s still [vicarious experience]… Or it is for me, anyway; I totally lack plotting brain, the whole joy of the thing for me is in spending time in someone else’s head.)
And I love those Dimsie passages, they’re very real.